House+Descriptions


 * THE HOUSES __WILL BE RUN BY SENIOR DOMINANTS__ ...THEY ARE ONLY NAMED AFTER MADAMES.**

** EXISTING GIRLS WILL HAVE AN OPPORTUNITY TO CHOOSE THE HOUSE THEY WISH TO JOIN, EXISTING RELATIONSHIPS (i.e.) best girls, pets, trainees ARE NOT AFFECTED**

CHOOSE A HOUSE

**Remember you are Madame's Girl. The Houses Will Help You to Learn to Serve Her Better**
What is your submissive style? The mistake many submissives make is to try to separate parts from the whole and offer the parts. Most dominants aren't looking for parts. Your body and desire isn't all that different from most others. What's unique, what makes a dominant select and work with one submissive over another, is an individual's personality, skills, talents and the way all those things come together. I'll try to make that a little easier here by offering three houses, each with a distinctive style, where I hope you'll have greater success in finding a connection. The Dominants and other sisters in your house will help you to find your way to your chosen submission.

If you want to be successful in your search for a dominant mentor in your house, spend only some of your time imagining bondage or perfecting your acceptance of spanking. Spend lots of time thinking about the surrender that makes those things possible; your desire to submit is what distinguishes you from vanilla. What you have to offer a dominant is your willing surrender of control. Start with that as the foundation of your offer, then flesh out your offer with the things that make you who you are. Your humor, your talents, your skills, your interests, plus your submission are what you're offering. It's a package.

Dominance isn't just an attitude. In fact, many real life dominants don't project some characteristic recognizable as "dominance." There's no posturing, strutting, condescension or even snarling, although there may be that too, depending on the situation. Most real life dominants are just quietly capable people. Real life people with feelings and frustrations, just like you. What sets skilled dominants apart from wannabees and poseurs is knowledge. We don't need to be psychologists but we need to know that hitting the wrong emotional button can trigger a meltdown. In other words, it takes more than a paddle and a large vocabulary of insults to be a dominant. It takes intelligence, maturity, responsibility, time, work, and lots and lots of practice.

BDSM involves respect, you for the dominant and the dominant for you. Trust is an essential part of the total power exchange (TPE).

There are many ways to practice BDSM, our houses represent some of the most common. There are all sorts of variations. What's important to remember is that none of them is The Best Way. Each is the best way for some people, not necessarily for you. If you find a style of BDSM doesn't work for you, it's fine to move on rather than try to force yourself into a mold that doesn't fit. Even if it means searching a little longer, achieving a good fit is worth the wait.

HOTALING HOUSE - STRICT OR SEVERE DOMINANTS
Let's start with the model that's probably the most familiar and popular, the Strict or Severe Dominant. This is the one seen most often in the media and on commercial web sites. The dominant woman or man is a cruel and distant dominant who treats the submissives/slaves like worms, dirt, garbage, take your pick. I suspect this is popular because it's hot, at least, in the moment. It's a sociological view that basically says that Dominants are superior and deserve respect. Then, depending on their own ideologies, people add personal bells and whistles like hoods and other forms of restriction and humiliation. It takes a lot of work to maintain this scenario, slaves require attention mostly for the things they do wrong. Seldom will this punishment take the form you might prefer.

HANSEN HOUSE - CLASSICAL BDSM
Classical BDSM is an always on connection involving total power exchange (TPE). Even though the partners don't always overtly express dominance or submission, the dynamic still exists. It may include many of the outward manifestations of the Strict or Severe dominants, such as chains, floggings even tight restrictive clothing. Sometimes people confuse the Strict Severe model with this model, however, classical BDSM isn't defined by verbal abuse. It's defined by the constant nature of the power transfer. Most lifestylers are everyday people, with the same problems and pleasures as vanilla people. The difference is that the power balance in their relationships is deliberately and consensually skewed.

BRAVEHEART HOUSE - SILK SCARF
The final house is the least severe. I think it is apt to describe its style as Silk Scarf. The power transfer exists but the manifestation is more gentle. Madame Aprille sometimes describes domination on this level as pampered pet, leashed and obedient. We could also think of it as a strict, Victorian era marriage; one partner is in charge, the other obeys. If that partner doesn't obey, he or she is firmly corrected. <span style="background-color: #ffffff; font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 115%;">Some people enjoy very limited and temporary power transfers. These are people who are basically vanilla and who sometimes play BDSM type roles to spice up their sex lives. It's fun, it's hot, it's fulfilling but it shouldn't be confused with true BDSM. It might, however, be a first tentative step on a path to something more intense.

<span style="font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 105%;">All are welcome here, recognize the houses, the people you meet here and take your first hint from the house they belong too. If you are a Silk Scarf girl, tread lightly around the Severe Dominants.

<span style="font-family: Verdana,Geneva,sans-serif; font-size: 105%;">Similarly to the Dominants, try not to disembowel one of our new girls.